Going to My First Rave-Need advice! :)

[sakorox]

Well this weekend is my 18th birthday and my boyfriend is taking me to a rave...something hes wanted me to do fora long time. And to tell u the truth, I do want to go, Im just a bit nervous since I have no idea what to expect. Im female, so what is a good thing to wear? And I'll be taking some E also...I tried it once before but it was so weak I dunno if it did much. Can someone chill my nerves by telling me how to "fit in"?

Thanks!! images/smilies/smile.gif

[Hatboi78]

Just be yerself. Most serious ravers I know r very friendly and huggable. Just wear normal clothes. If u sweatr bring a x tra shirt. Just make sure you are comfortable. That ads to yer trip. What party are you goin to sat?
Let me know. I will be at Mixer in tac

CuDdLePiMp

[butterfly]

Hey Girl!

Don't worry your going to have a great time! It really dosen't matter what you wear, I have worn everything from leather pants, to PJ pants, to capri's, to butterfly wings. Just remeber you will see a bit of everything and wear whatever you want. Have fun and be safe (Make sure you drink lots of water, and don't worry if you throw up, I do every time!). Have a great night!

Butterfly

[butterfly]

Hey Girl!

Don't worry your going to have a great time! It really dosen't matter what you wear, I have worn everything from leather pants, to PJ pants, to capri's, to butterfly wings. Just remeber you will see a bit of everything and wear whatever you want. Have fun and be safe (Make sure you drink lots of water, and don't worry if you throw up, I do every time!). Have a great night!

Butterfly

[juicee]

my advice: have fun and be yourself!! I would wear something comfortable, but also cute. There's nothing like feeling like a princess at a party, vs. a camper in a huge sweatshirt. Try to get your mitts on a tiny backpack so that your pockets don't get weighed down with shit.

Take a little toy or something that's special to you, when you need a break head outside and sit down. Take it out and focus on something other than the BOOM-BOOM in the background.

Have fun, be careful and don't forget to smile!

[Tertyl]

YEAH!! ANOTHER VIRGIN TO SCRAFICE TO OUR EVIL GOD!!! or is it gods this week? I forget, it always changes on me...

[Kid_E_Q]

umm... first off, BE CAREFUL... use common sense. don't eat anything unwrapped, don't go anywhere without someone knowing where you are... since you are going with your bf, I'm sure he'll take care of you.

raves are about expressing yourself, and being an individual... so don't try to "fit in." you'll eventually feel comfortable with the scene. for the mean time, enjoy it... cause first experience are never the same.

relax, have fun, and don't worry about how you look, or dance... just dance images/smilies/smile.gif remember that partEs are about the music and the dancing, not the E. although I must agree that E is awesome.

you'll do fine images/smilies/smile.gif

oh yeah, if it's either Mixer or Outer Limits that you are going to, come find me.

Quin

[phoenix]

Comfortable is important. A little bag is a must if you like to carry things like makeup or waterbottles or an extra tshirt. Also good is chap stick, gum , candy for you and to share, trip toys (stuffed animals, things that blink, etc) for a little break from dancing. Make sure you tell someone what you take and how much so that you have a lookout in case anything happens. If you get your substance at the event, make sure someone you are with sees the person you buy from. Be safe, listen to your body: when you are thirsty drink. Remember dancesafe is your friend. And be yourself. ALl you have to do to fit in is dance like you love the groove. Everything else comes natural.

luv luv luv
*phoenix*


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[Jinger]

Welcome sweetie! I hope that you have a great time at your first event! I like to wear layers like a tank and a sweat shirt you can out in a pack or around your waist. Think comfort above all, like comfy tennis shoes. But really it won't matter what you wear! Also like someone else mentioned, drink lots LOTS of water while on E it will be hot there especially if your dancing and it will dehydrate you WHICH IS VERY SERIOUS so please drink lots of water (did i say that enough?) Most everyone there will be great so if you need help, get lost, need water, ect. ect. ask and someone will help you (just perferably don't ask someone in the middle of a serious groove.) I'll also be at Mixer on Sat. If that is where your going! Have fun, be safe!

[meej]

be prepared to have a good time!

wear whatever you are comfortable in. dressing up because you think it's fun is a good idea, but don't feel like you have to dress up to "fit in". not that there is anything to fit in with -- you'll see all kinds of styles at raves. i've gone to a rave wearing khakis and a plaid button-down shirt before, didn't really feel out of place at all... i mean, people still came up and talked to me and stuff. you'll be fine.

you might also want to wear something that you don't mind getting dirty if you sit on the ground -- some venues are not very clean. the aforementioned khakis have a permanent stain on the ass because i sat on some blackberries at that party. :P

if there are outdoor areas, dress in layers so you can be warm outside and cool inside.

if you're taking e, make sure you drink plenty of water, keep yourself cool, and read the ecstasy health and safety information at http://www.dancesafe.org / before you go. party safe!!!

and finally --
listen to the music....
smile....
dance.
images/smilies/smile.gif

marijane
p.s. - what party are you going to on the 18th? i'll be at miracle.

[graciE]

i think it's god(s)......there can't be just one "rave god".....there's prolly a bitter junglist god....a kandE god.....a trancewhore god.....a bootay house god....etc etc etc....

erm...as for advice for your first party....just go out and have fun. wear whatever makes you comfortable and you feel good in. besides, you don't have to "fit in"....being different makes you kewl and unique. i'd like to think alot of ravahs are original people...just look at the attire some people leave their houses in! images/smilies/biggrin.gif at the same time....phat pants, visors, alot of people look very similar...oh hell....i don't wanna get into that right now....just go out and have a phuckin' great time dancing to the music.

~*gracie*~

p.s. don't take anything with you that you'll be heartbroken over if you lose it.

[HexRei]

Well, it's kind of like Studio 54... they won't let you in unless you are beautiful, thin, and wear really phat pants. The phatter your pants are, the more likely you are to get in. But warning! if your pants are too phat, a strong wind might carry you off while you are waiting in line with the other three thousand people! So be sure to tie a few sandbags to your belt loops.
You also are required to have at least 2 glow sticks on your person at all times.
This is so ravers can see each other on the dance floor, otherwise they might run into each other because it is dark and difficult to see in black lights.
Wearing visors is also good dress code. This is beneficial to you as well, because it often gets so hot in a rave that all that evaporated sweat pools on the ceiling and drips down. A visor will help keep your eyes clear.
Now, you might see some people with strange beaded jewelry, or even pacifiers! Be careful around these people. The beads are indicators of sexual preference and desires. If you wear beads on your left wrist, it means you are straight. Wearing them on your right wrist means you are gay. Having them on both wrists means you swing both ways.
The color of the beads also has meaning. The darker the colors you are wearing, the more horny and willing you are.
This is very important!
Follow these simple protocols and raving will be a fun and simple experience!

[juicee]

take "certain" persons advice with a grain of salt please. geesh

[graciE]

bwuahahahahahahahahaha.......

[Headphones Dude]

Okay, here's my advice........

1. Be yourself

2. Meet people!

3. Listen to the music

4. Expect to meet people that are different than you. This includes color, sexual prefference, musical prefference, economic wealth & status, sober or people who use drugs

5. You may get lucky, and a stranger gives you a beaded bracelet or necklace. Accept the offer, and if you're asked to give it away later, kindly refuse. Because you'll want to remember the person who gave it to you

6.Since you're doing E, know your limits on your strength and energy. Dance if you can, chill if you can't.

7. If you're offered acid, you may want to consider mixing it with you e. But, remember, you don't want to do too much of it. I had a wonderful time candy flipping at my first party, but maybe you should do that another time....

8. Listen to the music. It doesn't matter which genre you find yourself enjoying, but listen to it. Let it soothe you. Let it make you shake your tailfeather. Let it set you free.

9. Drink water. If you're not thirsty, drink water. When you get home, drink water. After you get up in the morning, drink water. Remember, drink water...

10. Give hugs if you meet somebody cool. It doesn't matter if you have a boyfriend. He'll understand what you're doing is only an innocent, friendly gesture. You're free to hug anybody you like. But it's a good idea to ask.

11. People might ask if you'd like to have any Vicks vapor rub on you. It will feel and smell good and you may or may not want their offer. It's up to you.

12. You may notice at first, nobody notices you. You'll look around, and see plenty of people chatting, hugging, hanging out, kissing, etc. Since you're bf will be there, have him introduce you to his friends and acqaintences. Pretty soon you'll get the hang of meeting new people.

13. You may find people smoking weed. If you feel you could use a good hit, approach their pow wow, and ask if it's all good if you can join. They're probably going to say yes. If you light up though, make it discreet as possible. You never know when a cop or security person is going to come out of the shadows. If that pipe or bong is on your lips, and they catch you, you'll have the pipe taken away, and if they really want to be assholes, give you a hard time. So remember, get your hit, but don't be too blatant about it.....(for instance, don't light up in the middle of the dancefloor where everybody can see you....)

14. If you get lost or seperated from your bf and or friends, and you're fucked up, first of all, DON'T PANIC! You're going to be ok, they're probably not very far off, and if you're in f/x, the lobby is a good meeting place, and if it's at Naf, outside is all good. Eventually you will be found.....

15. If you see somebody who looks really fucked up, sick, tired, or alone, or all of the above, ask if they're okay. Remember, that could be you someday, and you'd want people to help you if you needed it wouldn't you? Who knows, you may even save their life!!!

16. As far as what to bring, less is best, but it's all good to bring toys, extra clothing, PENS and PAPER are almost mandatory, you're going to meet so many people, get so many e-mails and numbers, you're almost crazy for not bringing those along...

17. Have fun, fun, fun!!!!!!

That's it. Follow those guidelines, collect fliers, pay attention to a good dj who can work a crowd(and you), and you'll soon be asking your bf(or yourself) why you didn't join in on the fun sooner!!!!!

[Tertyl]

Oh, and don't forget to ask someone what the secret handshake is...

[marshie99]

Make sure you drink lots of water, and don't worry if you throw up, I do every time


That is awesome advice....

[PulpMind]

In My Humble Opinion...

DON'T TAKE ANY DRUGS AT YOUR FIRST RAVE.

Take it in sober your first time, then take drugs after that... you'll have lots of time later to screw up your seretonin receptors...
what event are you going to, btw???

Happy Days,
~Jesi
http://www.eccentrica.org/thrive/morningfall.html

[bright]

jesus christ people ... isn't everyone leaving out a very important thing???

see, at raves, they play dance music. and so dancing is usually a good idea. be prepared to dance. forget about the drugs and the clothes and trying to "fit in". just dance and you will understand the mystique of raves.

you can do your drugs, wear the right clothes, and "fit in" somewhere else.

dancing is wot it is all about. hope you have fun.

- paul

[raapman]

here is the best advise that i can give you get a lot of sleep the day before drink lots of water wear what you want do what you want be friendly and be yourself everyone will love you no matter what

it's all good
;0)>

[HexRei]

Just cause it is all about dancing for you doesn't mean it is all about dancing for everyone else...
I mean, there's no need to be elitist about it. Some people are there for the music, some for the drugs, some for the vibe...

I personally am here for the...PANTS.

[Dancin' Queen]

I agree with bright. Dancing is the main reason to go to parties. If you don't like to dance, don't go!
Why do you want to fit in? Who cares? Just dance your ass off and have fun. Be careful with the drug thing.

[Sugar]

Sugars advice is as follows:

..smile.. and then dance.. and then drink water..*rub rub rub*.. and then dance again.. if you follow this advice.. then evenutally I will find you and smother you with hugs and Sugar kisses .. and it will be.. amazing..

you can thank me later! images/smilies/smile.gif

and heed the knowledge.. sugar is good for you. & (drum roll please).. the way everyone remembers who I AM.. that infamous saying.. a little sugar.. never hurt anyone!!

"cool. party. right on."

so which event willl you be attending?

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~Sugar wubs you!~

*big hugs!*

A little sugar never hurt anyone..

*Sugar is good for you*

Im beautiful damnit!
and I just want to f**kin dance!!

[186k/sec]

dont ever worry about 'fiting in'

fit in witih what? ...dancing & music?

that belongs to no-one & the fit is automatic

[HexRei]

That is your opinion of what needs to go on at a rave.
But what makes your opinion more valid than, for instance, the person who goes purely to see their friends and hang out, or the person who goes to trainspot new tracks?

I mean, I dont remember any "rave manifesto" where the "founder of rave" or whatever decided that the purpose of a party is to dance...

And dont gimme that "maybe im just oldskool" crap either :-) you're probably not much older than me...

[bright]

hex rei,

maybe i am just too old, and i don't get this new fangled "no dancing" thing at raves ... but in my experience, dancing is kind of wot goes on at raves.

not everyone dances all the time, but they are still at a rave where the majority of people are dancing.

all the other stuff that you may experience is just fluff: drugs, beads, adidas, phat pants, cat in the hat hats, pacifiers, surgical masks, mc hammer pants, wotever. that is all fashion and cliche.

dancing is all about the spirit.

music -> dancing -> vibe.

- paul

(mc hammer pants are the best for dancing.)

[bright]

i know it is just my opinion.

my opinion is very strong, tho, because i believe that dancing is a very powerful ritual activity, especially when done with a group.

and i think it is dancing that makes raves special. even for people who go there to pick up on sexual partners or just go meet their friends or just do drugs, it is still fairly obvious to them that there is quite a bit of dancing going on.

most producers make their music for dancing, most promoters throw parties for dancing, and most people go to parties for dancing. i'd say that raves are mostly about dancing. just kinda a gut feeling i have. images/smilies/smile.gif

i mean opinion. images/smilies/smile.gif

altho, the dancing thing isn't set in stone. if the majority of people start to feel that dancing is a secondary activity, then it will become just that. and i would personally be very sad. kos dancing really is wot creates the vibe at parties.

dancing. heh, i like to say it. images/smilies/smile.gif

dancing. images/smilies/smile.gif

- paul, dancing

[groovinkim]

And I'll be taking some E also...I tried it once before but it was so weak I dunno if it did much.

one thing i'd recommend if you plan on
using e is getting a pill testing kit.
raverbooks on capitol hill has them if you
can't find them anywhere else. a drop of
the solution will tell you an approximation
of what is in the pill you are considering
taking. that would make you much less likely to get a bunk/weak pill, get sick, or worse.

kim

[A.J.]

sand

[groovinkim]

no idea why this got bumped, but to add to my earlier post.. raverbooks of course is long gone, but http://www.dancesafe.org has kits in case anyone reads this & needs one.

[HexRei]

Wow, oldaskoola-style. Doing some archaeology, AJ? ;)

[A.J.]

I bought a book from raverbooks once. I think I am the only one who bought something.

[EviLKat]

Originally posted by PulpMind
In My Humble Opinion...

DON'T TAKE ANY DRUGS AT YOUR FIRST RAVE.

Take it in sober your first time, then take drugs after that... you'll have lots of time later to screw up your seretonin receptors...
what event are you going to, btw???


I'd agree with that. At least this way you can know if you enjoy partying or if you only enjoy the drug. I mean, you can do the drug anywhere and then you won't have to spend $$$ on getting into a party you wouldn't have much fun at anyway. Just my humble opinion. Your first rave is enough of a sensory overload that you really don't need drugs to feel high.

[FiberOptic]

seem's to know alot about crack, but never tried the e ......hrm.
i bet sack o hear is just some crackerjack from NE tring to score.

[TheVWDJ]

There's always a few things I suggest to friends for their first party. The first and foremost is to go in with an open mind. It is kind of overwhelming when you first get there and there is all kinds of stuff going on. The second is (like everyone else said) to where comfortable clothes, and don't be affraid to make a statement if you want, a lot of people have certain ways they dress at parties to be recognized and kind of form a rave "identity" if you will.. And finally, my favortie aspect of parties, DANCE, if you sit and stand around and don't try to make trhe most of it then you wont get the most out of it. Dancing is what it's all about so try to just let loose and enjoy the music!

[Iokera]

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And I'll be taking some E also...I tried it once before but it was so weak I dunno if it did much.
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WWJD!!!!!

[MizDollyB]

Originally posted by Tertyl
Oh, and don't forget to ask someone what the secret handshake is...


I hope she got the secret handshake!:)

[lurla]

This post isn't THAT old but it seems to me not many people with a television would feel the need to ask this question now what with all the datelines and after school special rave episodes.

Interesting note, you can also die from drinking too much water. Like Brittany Chambers, whose death basically shut down the scene in Denver. Not to make light of a young girl's death... just pointing out that "drink water, drink water, drink water" advice can actually be taken too far.

[A.J.]

Originally posted by Iokera
quote:


WWJD!!!!!

For a klondike bar...?

[balloon kitten]

Originally posted by A.J.
For a klondike bar...?
LOL! ...I just thought I'd let you know I liked that. ;)

[anxiety]

-bE yOUrsElf-

[LuV2DaNcE]

ADVICE;
*1* Dance like nobodys watching.....
*2* Wear whatever you feel comfy in....
*3* You don't have to "preach" P.L.U.R but just kinda pay attention to what it stands for...
*4* At any given point or time there is no need to feel frightned by some of the people there....they may just be really high or having A LOT of fun....
*5* If you make Eye contact...introduce yourself..or atleast just throw back a smile...
*6* Feel the music....It's great...
*7* Don't be a wall flower and try not to get sucked into a cuddle puddle...
*8* Be yourself no one there will judge you and the people that do FUCK EM!
*9* If an E-Tard runs into your cigarette (if you smoke) dont worry they will be OKAY....
*10* If you see someone sitting in the middle of the dance floor....KICK THEM...
*11* Try and walk around get the feel of things and all the different techno ....
*12* It's alright to dabble with the narcotics because everyone knows they have at a party before thats how most people start but you smart up...You really shouldnt do E at your first party...You'll most likely never want to go sober to one...someone once said Go to a party sober and see if your still part of the party scene.....yea
*13* JUST SAY NO......to 70 year old virgins....

WHILE YOUR THERE AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR HAVING TOO MUCH FUN....REMEMBER THERE IS NO AND I MEAN NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH FUN....only outta control....

thats all the advice we have at the moment and we hope you enjoy it as much as we do....

we Love all you party goers,
SameEe and Cassie

[Iokera]

i think its funny that people are giving advice for a person from a post that is 2 years old. i'm sure he's been to about 100 raves by now.

peace

[Headphones Dude]

Man, I can't believe I posted here hella ago....kinda amusing to see advice I once gave out....