Why does love also bring hurt?happy/sadness

[~GeE eYe JoE~]

It seems like everytime I am happy, something is always bringing me down. Or everytime I think their may be a chance of love, I get hurt. I think I would be better off by being "in the middle". Not happy, and not sad. I hate the whole, "what goes up, must come down shit".

[Fresh]

your right...it's the whole ying-yang theory...or as you put it "what goes up must come down"...just deal with it and move on...

out...

[LilMissDJ]

Being close to another person and letting them into you opens you up and makes you vulnerable to an extent. A lot of people are afraid to open themselves up because once you are vulnerable, anyone can take you on and your defenses are noewhere to be seen. One thing that you will learn in time is that it is alright to be scared and to want to protect yourself, its human nature however, you won't be able to grow and learn until you open yourself up and experience love, all aspects of it and how each time it changes you. Not everyone can be an open book, but the more you embrace opportunities and experience, the more you learn and grow, the more you know about others and most importantly, about yourself...Take your time and do what feels right deep down inside. That voice is the one who knows which comfort level you truly can handle...

[Vick_the_Vapor]

The lows have to be low for the high's to seem so high.

You should learn to appreciate the "negative" emotions for what they are and what they have to offer. There would less learning, less feelings of accomplishment and worst of all... even the "positive" emotions get boring if that is all you have. Even happiness can make one feel stagnant if lasting for independantly for too long.

Accept these emotions for what they are. Each one has a unique purpose.

[+pOlley+]

It seems like that's how it always is.... It's either you really like someone and you get the sh*ts... or someone really likes you and they get the sh*ts..or if you're both lucky, you feel the same way....

It seems like this situation always occurs with me...
I really like someone, and from what I know and from what he has told me, he likes me too... but he never calls, I can never get ahold of him....so now I'm stuck on what I should do, cuz I like him lots, but he lives in Oly, so there's not much I can do right now but keep to myself and wait....wait to see what happens, and if nothing happens....I guess I'll have to move on. :(

I hate this sh*t!
But I try not to get sad about it. Because I still got my buddies, and my tables. :)

[biscuits]

dude i can relate to you perfectly on this one, everytime it seems i am gettin happy and my life is gettin back on track i fuck up and get even more in debt or make someone not like me anymore, right now i am utterly (?SPELLING?) depresed in my life and i cant seem to pull out of it :(
just hang in there man and know there are people who are prolly going through worse shit than you.
peace

[groovinkim]

The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. -- Eleanor Roosevelt

[Miss Abra Rose]

Originally posted by groovinkim:
The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. -- Eleanor Roosevelt


How incredibly well put. I really don't think you could have summed it up any better than with that quote.

Joe: If life wasn't about allowing yourself to care and allowing yourself to get hurt once in awhile, we would never really learn anything about ourselves. Through our experiences we grow and learn to accept the good we have to offer and the flaws we need to learn to love.

I really do feel sympathy for you on this one...I am the same way...

It seems that everytime we get hurt or we allow ourselves to give our hearts out completely, we get trampled on. But there are only two things you can do...One, you can let it further destroy you and make you pessimistic and cold or two, you can step back, look at the whole situation and say, "what did I learn from this?" In general it is better to take step two, regardless of how hard it is. And TRUST ME, it is not easy to just say.."yeah, well I learned a lesson, next.." and just move on. Our hearts don't operate quite closely enough with our minds.

I am definitely at the point in my life where I'd like to just say 'fuck it' and remain in the 'middle road'. I know that if I was to stay there though, I do not think I would be happy in the long run of things. So I will stay here for now, but I will never give up. I do not think I am destined to remain alone forever. My time will come and in that perfect moment I think I will know.

It's all about optimism..something that severely lacks in today's world when it comes to relationships.

Peace, love, and smiles :)

*Abra Rose*

[Tekno*Blaze]

Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places. Not everyone that finds love gets hurt. And those who do find true love, are with them for the rest of their lives! So, just think about that. If the love you once had brings so much hurt, IT'S NOT LOVE!!! It was a mistake. LaTeR. ;)

Luv Ya,
Genna

[ 05-16-2001: Message edited by: Tekno*Blaze ]

[Tekno*Blaze]

Originally posted by kill_happy:
<STRONG>i'm normally the one that put's the ppl in the bad mood.. tehehehe... i guess i would be called an ass hole by some...</STRONG>

Ya, you definetly put me in a bad mood Rob! You f*ckin ass! Don't ever call me again! hehe. :p

LOVE YA!!!!
*Genna*

[~GeE eYe JoE~]

Genna,
Its not just the fact that I was in love. Its everything that has happened these past two years. I guess I have to learn how to deal with change. Or, put up with things I cant change.

[Headphones Dude]

It's like, you can be patient, and wait, and bump into a person you see yourself liking enough to fall in love with, or at least just get to know better, but you mean nothing to them. They get offended if you call them, or try to hang out with them, because they have the exscuse "they're busy". I'm not talking about what Rawker123 is going through, but just what I've gone through alot. Like the other person doesn't want to hear from me, or see me again. That part hurts, and all you want to do is take your time and go low n slow....

Or sometimes you can meet somebody who is willing to give you a try, but things don't work out. You're both out of a car, and meeting gets to be hard, or one simply dissapears, and you never see them again. Most the time, it's they know you like them, but they're not ready for you, because they're with somebody else. So they put you on their shelf, and you either wait, or move on....

Usually, it's the latter....

If I ask you
to fit the question
If I make in proper suggestions
would you find that
a risk to your health?
Would you put me
upon your book shelf?
With the books?
And the plants?

Desperate, but not serious
your kisses drive, me delerious

Adam Ant-"Desperate, but not serious"

[jaggedliquid]

Love can sometimes be a very dark path to walk down. Trust me I know. :confused: Sometime you feel like giving up but thats not the anwser. You have to be willing to wait for the time to come. Trust me theres someone out there for everyone. Even a sap like me. ;) But just rember one thing. Don't worry about find the one. Because even if you think you have found the one you will spend the rest of your life wondering if that person you love is the one. Just love them for what they can bring to the table. :)

[FUZZY WUZZIE]

I always look at it backwards "Why does hurt bring love"? only to get hurt again.I've been more happy the last yr in half single then i was when i was in a 6 yr relationship...

[Tekno*Blaze]

I'm here for ya Chris!!! You're the shit, and don't forget it, k?

Luv Ya,
*Genna*

[Lil-D]

Pain is good. It helps you learn things.

If it didn't then where would be as a people and race? (Human race, not some ethnicity.)

[~GeE eYe JoE~]

I don't agree that pain is good, but I do think it helps you learn things.

[kill_happy]

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! doesn't life just suck at times.. oh well tho it's something we have to deal with.. a little good with a lot of bad.. never ending story..
good thing i really don't give a fuck about to much and i'm normally the one that put's the ppl in the bad mood.. tehehehe... i guess i would be called an ass hole by some.. sould i be bothered by that.. i think not...

[sparklegirl]

awww i know exactly how you feel...and i'm soo sick of it...especially with the love and liking someone....seems that whenever i like someone they don't like me like that...but then there are all these other guys that would like a chance with me but i don't like them......ugh!!!...it kinds makes me mad...but anyways i hope you feel better....later....*christina*

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