would you change your clothes style for your parents?? [Archive]

RiceDiva

02-12-2001, 01:57 PM

*shrug*

so, my parents HATE, i mean HATE the way i dress. (how do i dress??) well--a lot of my friends tell me they like my style. but then, theyre friends...not parents.

ill give ya my description of just today's outfit:
-khaki "Split" zip-off cargo pants
-Grean "Spitfire" hoodie
-white bandana
so, i basically looked like a skater chick...but, i dont always dress like this. just when i feel lazy, and dont wanna get dressed up to go out for an hour.

my mom, insisted that i looked like a gang member with cancer. :P and that people who see me, immediately judge me. thinking that im gonna cause trouble and im no good, and not worth talking to. i told her, "i dont really care what people think of me. if they want to prejudge me before they even talk to me. obviously, theyre ignorant, close-minded, and i dont think i would want to get to know someone that is like that."

my mom also rathers me be a follower, not be an indivisual, and dress like a hootchie, than to see me in a hoodie. or with a skirt over a pair of pants. she thinks im "weird" (which im glad she does, cuz i dont wanna be normal) because my old high school friends are ALL preppy "GAP" and "abercromie" kids...and im not.

so, i get bitched at over and over...about my style of clothing. and now that im working, i know my money is gonna go towards clothes...which my mom will hate. cuz, it wont be "gap". so, would you change your style of clothing just for your parents???

i wouldnt, but...sometimes...i think altering it a tad, to make them a lil happy will slove things. but, make me not as happy with myself.

<3 tamme

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soho

02-12-2001, 02:07 PM

The question is... are they planning on financing this overhaul on your wardrobe? If my mom said "Jess, you need to wear more Diesel and Prada" and I was opposed to it (which I'm not! i'd die a happy girl if she said that) but she was willing to cough up the thousands of dollars for this new look she wanted me to have... hell yeah I'd do it for a few months! Nothing like expanding your wardrobe images/smilies/smile.gif

Wait... if she said she wanted me to wear patch work hippy pants and birks all the time I'd probably laugh in her face... ummm...

I have no point to this. *scratches her head*

Don't do it if you don't want. I don't want to be a smelly hippy as much as you don't want to be an abercrombie wearing, SoHo lookin girl. Then you have to think, which is better, having individuality (you're not that weird, sorry hun) and suffering through months of your parents bickering, or conforming and living the next few months in silence... well relatively anyway. Sounds like they will find something to bitch about if it's not your hair, it's your clothes, then your friends and blah blah blah...

TrippyZippy

02-12-2001, 02:10 PM

Sorry sis.

I'd never change the way I dress for my parents. Unless I was going to a formal thing. but then again. I also don't need they're approval or support anymore. My parents never messed with my head like that before either when I was young so... Sorry for the bad situation. I say do what you gotta do til your completely independant.

^*ZiPpY*^

Lefty

02-12-2001, 02:13 PM

Personally...no I wouldn't.

I agree with trippy. If they are going to "buy" you new clothes. i'd take a shot at it and try to get something "I" liked instead of them just going out and buying me shit.

My parents aren't really keen on my style of dress and the HATE my piercings but hey they live 1200 miles away and don't give me any finacial support(but I love em anyways), so they really have no say in how I style myself.

I'm 'suming your a big girl...do what "you" want to do images/smilies/smile.gif

boy christe

02-12-2001, 02:20 PM

well, no.

LuvChild

02-12-2001, 02:26 PM

I don't see this as anything to worry about, Tamme. I don't think I've EVER met anybody whose parents approved of the way they dressed. Just think about high school and how many fashions and fads came-and-went. I'm sure many of us tried the "goth" thing and the very next year jumped into a pair of GAP khakis (are your khakis GAP, tamme *gives weird look*?).

And it's not even the brands anymore. I refuse to buy anything from the GAP or Old Navy or Nordstrom, but my favorite capri's are from Structure. Go figure *shrug.* Obviously it's more "the look," tho. It's funny that my Mom NEVER gave a fuck about what I wore in high school (blue vinyl Airwalks, torn cords, Marilyn Manson T's, Nautica pants...), but now whenever I leave for a party in something as harmless as Kikwear and a red-and-white Umbro jacket, she instantly assumes I'm going to get mugged or shot because "Seattle is a bad place" and I'd better be in a group.

Bottom-line, tho: Don't change for anybody but yourself. Even if it is something as petty as clothing. You are who you are. If you wanna walk out in the streets with a hoodie on and Spandex shorts (God forbid), rawk on. If your Mom really wants you to alter your wardrobe, she'll spring-forth the green to make it possible.

And that's when you buy HER type of clothes.

::LuvChild::

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RPM

02-12-2001, 02:28 PM

THAT'S MY HOODIE!!! THAT BITCH INSULTED MY HOODIE!!!

=*(

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kill_happy

02-12-2001, 02:37 PM

they tried but who are they to say shit..... it's all about self expression i think.. if they have a problem with mine i have a problem wit theirs.. but do you think they would change for you?????? hell no so why should you change for them?? think about it

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hailbob

02-12-2001, 02:39 PM

my boss told me to wear a tie. and nice khakis. every day.

i told him, look, every day i pop open these awfully dusty computer cases. every day i have to crawl under nasty-ass desks littered with all of the sticky food crumbs and latte splatters on the floor. every day i tear open my cuticles and get nasty, infected sores from shoving cables between the tight space between a desk and a cubicle wall.

i don't mind this. i'm a big boy, and i've learned to get over my owies quickly. what makes me cry, though, is when i get an unfixable blood or dust stain on a $35 Italian silk tie.

and you HAVE to wear the $35 ties. you can't just fuck around and wear the 3-for-$5 ties you find at Goodwill...its just not professional.

so basically, i told my boss "no." i told him/them, look, i'm GOING to wear a t-shirt and big jeans and a hat. unless, i said, i can start expensing my 9-5 attire. and since my company doesn't have a corporate Nordstrom's card, they dropped the subject.

but more than that, is the fact that i really, really can't stand suits. and ties. they're pretentious and make me look like i'm trying to be someone i'm not.

i'm a t-shirt and big jeans kind of person. i troubleshoot best, think best, when i'm comfortable, so i wear whats comfortable.

its frowned on by my company, though. big deal, though, says i. let em frown. > images/smilies/frown.gif grrrrrr...whatever. frowns are an empty threat, unless you're playing politics.

my point is, figure out why your attire is comfortable for you, and why "nice girl" clothes are counter-productive. explain this to your parents. be firm, be tough, be clear.

hopefully, they'll have enough good sense to let go of this SILLY fight which they're SURE to lose anyway...good luck.

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boy christe

02-12-2001, 02:42 PM

tamme's mom called mikey, jamie and myself thugs last summer! yepp. thugs!

*falls down and cries* (did i knock my drink over? no...okay...)

RiceDiva

02-12-2001, 02:44 PM

i think it actually goes a LOT deeper than just my clothes.

although, she sez, "i know you dont care what you wear. and you dont care what people think. im just protecting you...and i dont want people to think negatively of you."

translation: "i care for you, i know you dont care what people think. but *I* do! my friends are the ones saying things. and that makes *me* look bad. not you.."

blah!! thats mainly the reason, should i dress a LITTLE bit differently...so my mom doesnt feel like shes a failure?

boy christe

02-12-2001, 02:51 PM

you can always dress the way she wants you to and wet yourself a lot. if she's still embarassed, ask her just what it is she wants? explain that you feel uncomfortable, even afraid, when you wear these new clothes.

love wesley.

p.s. tell me how that works. i may use that strategy in the office. images/smilies/wink.gif

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boy christe

02-12-2001, 02:52 PM

that's bullshit! i didn't edit that message! fuckin' computers...

soho

02-12-2001, 03:13 PM

I was bored on the drive home and I was thinking about this because why focus on the road when you can have deep thoughts about your friends wardrobe circling within your head? images/smilies/smile.gif

I was also thinking it had some deeper meaning but not your mother's "failure." I mean she raised an amazing person that has the "balls" to be an individual and go against the norm. Clothing is very surface so I don't think it has to do with that, although I don't know your parents.

If anything I think it roots deeper in control. Parents want to manipulate their children's lives so they can be a little mold of exactly what they want. Just because you like to wear bandanas that make you look like you're part of the Bloods doesn't mean you failed her or that she failed when raising you.

You're the oldest daughter and I'm sure it's extrememly difficult to let you go. They did for a few short months and now they have you back! Now she may think she can take these few months to mold her little creation and that she's getting a second chance. The thing is you're almost 19! You've grown up, you've been out of the house, you haven't really lived the "real world" yet but you have developed your own ideals, values and habits.

Letting them control your clothing is giving them the freedom to try to control other aspects of your life (again this is all my take on it and I'm referring to my own experiences with my parents, specifically my father). It's sort of saying you are giving up, you will shove your individuality to the back of your head and conform, which is where I see failure.

As long as you respect your parents then most everything else is surface and superfical. Clothing isn't respect, clothing is personality and shows a part of you. It's not something that should be used when determining whether you failed as a parent or not.

There are some things parents will never understand and those that are strict in their values and culture are the ones that will be harder to sway to think different is OK. Don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself, thinking you failed your mom because you like to dress with style.

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RPM

02-12-2001, 03:27 PM

::Tamme::

You know what I think about your mom; we discussed it on AIM.

I just want to continue to encourage you to explore YOUR style, and express yourself--not the image your parents would like to project. YOU ARE CUTE, and the way you look can only be described as TAMME. Not many people can do what you do, my dear; so until your parents can embrace your style, tell them this for me:

EAT ME!!!

love,
me

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*badmouse*

02-12-2001, 03:29 PM

for the two years i had dreds i wore hats to cover them up whenever i was around my parents (knowing that they hated my hair).
it didn't bother me, it was my way of being respectful of them. but if they had *told* me i had to cover them up i would have gotten pissed.

same with all my ink.
i've avoided getting inked in places on my body that can't be covered up with a t-shirt or 'normal' clothes. but that's also a vague career move, really, so maybe it's irrelevant.

i moved out when i was 17, so after that i only changed my style of dress or covered up my hair when i knew i was going to see them (or run into friends of theirs), but since i lived 45 minutes away i rarely had to deal with it.

RiceDiva

02-12-2001, 03:33 PM

you can always dress the way she wants you to and wet yourself a lot. 

what if i ALREADY wet myself?? lol...jk

and jess...your points are very true, and i couldnt agree with you more. of coarse, im more open minded than my parents. my parents are just old school asians, and dont understand why they cant control and mold me into something they want. like theyre doing with my older bro and 2 younger sisters. i guess, i just get out more...and ive seen the world. (not really...but ive seen reality, as compared to my siblings) and they dont understand how *I'm* the one rebelling against their rules...no matter how many times they tell me they dont like it.

true, maybe the 'clothes' is the start of my parents plan to take over my mind, and re-mold me into the 'perfect' daughter. maybe, this way...ill be 'normal' and 'typical' and 'boring' and 'unreal'. but, ill be their 'normal, typical, boring and unreal self' which will make them happier.

i think its sad, that my parents rather have me not believe in myself, and not have my own personality, but be someone im not. i think its sad, my mom would pick the way a person dresses to be her friend...than a way a person treats her. (maybe, thats why my parents dont have many friends??)

Super_Joe

02-12-2001, 03:35 PM

don't worrie about what your parents think of you, things change and thats about what happend here....you don't want to be "normal" and thats good.....

FREEDOM OF EXPRESSION

it's the shit

Peace Out

Super Joe

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RPM

02-12-2001, 03:43 PM

::Jess::

There are definitely some control issues involved here, but in my not so humble opinion, I think Tamme's mother (and father) are concerned with Tamme's contribution to the family image.

Their daughter does not fit in to the neat family picture they would like to present to the community. Although there are control issues deeply embedded in this whole nightmare for Tamme, I see two very shallow people that do not see the beauty that Tamme really projects to the community. I bet Tamme's parents think she dances funny too. We all know she has the most beautiful groove in the NW (If you don't think so then you can EAT ME. Try to bite her moves. You can't? Thought so.).

more later...

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soho

02-12-2001, 03:59 PM

i think its sad, that my parents rather have me not believe in myself, and not have my own personality, but be someone im not. i think its sad, my mom would pick the way a person dresses to be her friend...than a way a person treats her.

I think you just answered your own question images/smilies/wink.gif

Mikey~ true.. I did try to put emphasis on the fact I was using my own experiences with my father. He was raised in a rural and very conservative farm community and now lives all over the place in asia. He is controlling and after not seeing me for 5 years decided to come home and tell me the way I was living my life was not to his liking and my friends were all losers and I was a "snot nosed brat" (that was a direct quote). So he was a control freak, not an image freak.

Like I said... I don't know tamme's parents but if it's more about their "social image" then I say FUCK IT! Well I say FUCK IT anyway but tamme... you know you are a special individual (and not the short bus type) and you have a lot of spunk and personality oozing from your pores - your clothing just reflects that. Don't change because your mom wants to look better for her friends.

You need to get out of there... FAST!

miss tekky

02-12-2001, 04:05 PM

Tamme, your mom and my mom should hang out. They'd get along well.

I don't think I'd ever change the way that I dress for someone else. Even if they just happen to be my parents.

Our parents are closed minded and much, much to self absorbed. It's always, "Do this for me." not "Do this for yourself."

Be who you want to be. Dress how you want to dress. Don't let someone's superficial and selfish words become a block for you.

If they don't like it, too bad. It's your money and you're 19 now. Don't let them treat you like you're 12.

My rents have more respect for me than they used to. It took a lot of bickering and fighting, but in the end we both realized that we needed to be open minded about things.

*wonders when her mom will stop with the "Marry a rich man." comment*

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Zillah1221

02-12-2001, 04:05 PM

I've been through this same thing. I'm only 19, so I'm still going through it a bit. I used to be quite "gothic" looking, or so everyone thought. Basically, I just liked clothes some poeple considered odd and most of these clothes happened to be black (easier to match everything together). My parents hated it! As well as when I dyed my hair green. They refused to go with me anywhere and I missed a lot of family dinners and things outside of the home. My mom and I finally had an all out screaming match about this problem about three years ago. I came home to find her in my room with all the clothes from my closet and drawers being thrown into boxes of what she wanted to throw away. I grew up with an extremely "preppy" perfect sister, who had all the Gap and Nordstrom friendly clothes and friends. I never quite fit into this mold, even though I tried for a bit. I decided, even fights and constant arguments with my mom, were worth being myself. I wasn't happy pretending to be something I'm not in clothes I felt ridiculous in. I'm a creative person and I enjoy making, designing and wearing clothes. My mom is slowly, with a lot of training, realizing this is just the way I am, and that she can't change me. In fact, for my senior project last year she even helped me make my dream corset...although she still cowers everytime I wear it (but that may be for some other reasons as well...hello cleavage!). Of course, she still makes sarcastic comments about a lot of my things (especially the snapple cap dress), but she's dealing with things better. My best advice would be to talk to her, find out exactly why she is unhappy with your clothing choices. I'm compromised with my mother and decided to let her help me pick out clothes she wants me to wear to family things and places where my clothing might reflect her in some way (or in her little mind). Sometimes she does have good taste, in fact I let her pick my prom dress last year. Honestly, your mother's feelings are must likely less about your clothes and more about the attitude or situations she feels you may get into wearing them. All moms seem to think if you dress in abercrombie or the gap you are a perfect angel...I think that's one of the world's greatest misconceptions.

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steeny

02-12-2001, 04:07 PM

Tamme ~ WERD about our high school having an overabundance of Abercrombie & Gap style. I don't know if you remember me, I had speech class with you last year at TJ. You taught us how to make phat pants! images/smilies/smile.gif

Anyway...just be an individual. I totally thought you were cool in high school cause you were just...you. Like you said, you don't want to be "normal" and conform to everything your parents/society tells you, and you most likely wouldn't feel too comfortable in clothes that don't fit your taste.

Just keep expressing yourself -- dress for comfort and fun images/smilies/smile.gif

~Christine

RiceDiva

02-12-2001, 04:16 PM

I see two very shallow people that do not see the beauty that Tamme really projects to the community. I bet Tamme's parents think she dances funny too. We all know she has the most beautiful groove in the NW (If you don't think so then you can EAT ME. Try to bite her moves. You can't? Thought so.).

mikey, you make me smile!! *blush* and no, my parents have never seen me dance...theyve never seen me interact with my friends. the only time my parents have supported me, was in sports. sometimes. however, i dont do those anymore...so, now? never. but, i bet they would think i dance funny, "like an animal" even. but, *shrug* thats why i dont open myself up to them. in all honesty, they wonder why i treat my friends better than my own family. its because my friends dont sit there and put me down 24/7. for the littlest things, like a bandana.

and about this "social image"....WERD!! FUCK IT! thats all i gotta say about that. shit, either way...im not gonna be as happy as i wanna be. if i dress like they want me to, i wont be happy with my appearance. and if i dress the way i want to, at leat im gonna make a part of me happy.

thank you all! ive made my decision, and its FUCK IT!

<3 tamme, the gangsta with cancer.

RiceDiva

02-12-2001, 04:21 PM

christine...i member ya! and yeah...im sick of the parents. im sick of their rules. theyre lucky im partly agreeing to living here. so, yeah...im done! :)

soho

02-12-2001, 04:21 PM

<3 tamme, the gangsta with cancer.

MUAAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAA!!!! images/smilies/biggrin.gif

J.Crew just emailed me and they are having a sale if you change you mind. *bangs her head into the keyboard* damn me for being poor.

chemical_burn

02-12-2001, 04:25 PM

Kevin loves Tamme and Kevin thinks she should be whoever she wants and look however she wants to.

Hun you got bad style, if I was your mom(woah thats weird) I'd be proud to have a girl who had that much style.
In the end what we say here isn't gonna decide what you want, it's gonna boil down to your own decision.
When my mom did the same thing to me I told her that how I dress makes me comfortable. I'm not making a statement, I'm not doing it to defy you or to fit it with anyone. I wear what I wear to be comfortable, if you wish me to change how I dress then I'll see what I can do, but understand that you will be making me uncomfortable with who I am.

Personally I would never change the way I am to make my parents look better in anyone's eyes. If she is worried about how you dress reflects her tell her to look at who you are, not how you dress. You're a cool girl and I assume your not getting into much trouble, so your mother should be proud.
*shrug* Thats pretty much what I told my mom about the situation.
Hope it all works out for ya hun, much love! =P

ps: Lefty said-"I'm 'suming your a big girl"
I would like you to know how much effort I had to put into not making a short joke after this comment. images/smilies/smile.gif Love you Tamm-E!

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Lefty

02-12-2001, 04:37 PM

Yikes!...taken out of context, that could make for a bad statement images/smilies/redface.gif

RiceDiva

02-12-2001, 04:48 PM

it didn't bother me, it was my way of being respectful of them. but if they had *told* me i had to cover them up i would have gotten pissed

i agree with you on that. when we go to certain places...aka their friends house, or out to eat. i try to dress...'normal' and plain. like my sisters...out of respect. but when *I'M* going somewhere...out with my friends. i dress the way i want to...yet STILL get bitched at. *shrug* this has been going on for a year or so now. and i dont think its getting any better...

so, ill still stand my ground, and not let them walk all over me. but, it just a tough struggle...when youre the only one in the family that dresses like this, or wont obey ALL their rules.

soho

02-12-2001, 05:06 PM

When my mom did the same thing to me I told her that how I dress makes me comfortable. I'm not making a statement, I'm not doing it to defy you or to fit it with anyone.

Exactly! that's what my mom was afraid of when I started getting holeS in my body and shoving chunks of metal through the holes. She FLIPPED when I got my tongue pierced because she thought she went wrong somewhere and that I was going to be a hardcore lil rebel. That hurt to think my mom thought she had failed with me because she hasn't done anything but succeed! That's the last thing I would ever want my mother to think.

If she was like "OMG!!! What will my friends think?" I make sure to be present at all gatherings and stick out my tongue just because I'm a brat but she wasn't worried about that.

hehe if my dad ever comes back I'm getting my labret redone right before I see him just so he'll have another shit fit, just so I can ignore him for another 3 weeks while he's in town. MUAUAHAHAHAHAA

Primer

02-12-2001, 06:30 PM

Rice Diva: you got Asian parents what do u expect, their gonna argue with u til they get tired of arguing just give it a while and they will back off. I kinda dressed like you back in HS. they'd always bitch about me and my shitty clothes, and i just smiled back at them said "don't worry about u ain't wearing the clothes" . Don't worry just dress they way u dress now, but i'd rather see u in a backless halter top and some leather pants though!!!hehehe! But seriously just wait awhile then they will cool off. images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif yeah!!

RiceDiva

02-12-2001, 09:00 PM

. I kinda dressed like you back in HS. they'd always bitch about me and my shitty clothes, 

thanks!!! you havent met me, and you think i dress 'shitty' you really know how to compliment a chick huh?? images/smilies/smile.gif

soho

02-12-2001, 09:02 PM

Primer is just rackin up points everywhere he turns! images/smilies/rolleyes.gif

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spunkdiz

02-12-2001, 09:04 PM

Fck what others think,

I love your style tamme!

RAWR!!!

o0*DollFace*0o

02-12-2001, 09:35 PM

well, as long as i get good grade in school, my parents dont bitch bout my style..but my mom wouldn't mind if i stoped dyeing my hair pink..to bad for her..i like it this way images/smilies/biggrin.gif..
now..she wishes i would wear *normal makeup* instead of my funky style..we must work on her thinking.
hugs and love,
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groovinkim

02-13-2001, 01:53 AM

you could always do like me in hs.. wear one outfit, then change clothes the second you leave the house

Primer

02-13-2001, 06:36 AM

Rice Diva: no i didn't mean u dress shitty, it was me who dress shitty, well thats what my parents think. This is in no way to offend and if i did i'm sorry!! images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif

Godlike

02-13-2001, 07:37 AM

As haas been mentioned previously, if you're working and footing the bill for the threads you wear, no one has a say in the matter 'cept for you.

hrmm. i wanna be called a thug too.

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Primer

02-13-2001, 08:20 AM

Originally posted by TrippYVixen:
Primer is just rackin up points everywhere he turns! images/smilies/rolleyes.gif



Trippyvixen: what do u mean by racking up points? But hey i'll wouldn't mind racking up points with u. oh there i go again racking up points... images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif images/smilies/tongue.gif

Enkidu Kind

02-13-2001, 08:22 AM

**Applauds Everyone In This Thread**

You all have your brains in the right place. Just be yourself, what more can you be? Don't give in to what anyone says to you, especially something as superficial as clothes. Geez, does a shirt or a dress really change the person you are inside? Parents rant that your clothes immediately bring judgement from everyone around you. But you know what? Those people are all strangers, so who the fuck cares?? Personally, I'd rather freak out the people I don't know.

BTW, RiceDiva, my folks gave me that same, tired-out line when I was in high school. My clothes are too weird, and people think I'm a criminal who's up to no good. It got even more interesting once I went to college. The hippie look apparently made me look even more like a criminal, but now I had the "drug-addict" look going on, whatever that is. Now, with the current fringe-style look going on, I have found myself interested in new, wacky clothes. And at age 26, they still slip little, "I'm just trying to protect you from yourself," messages in there. My Mom always gets a furrowed brow when she sees me in my baggy cargos and neo-hoodie. Jest learn to ignore it. Oh, and life gets better once you're outta there!! images/smilies/smile.gif

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RPM

02-13-2001, 10:06 AM

::Tamme::

Did you tell your parents to "EAT ME" for mikey? My hoodie is SK8er, not GANGSTER! images/smilies/wink.gif

My dear Tamme, you make me smile too!

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phoenixhelios

02-13-2001, 10:09 AM

Tizamme, u are cute the way u are images/smilies/smile.gif.

I've always gotten shit from my parentz about how I dress, hair color, makeup, yada yada...
They still say stupid things like:
"I thought u were an art major, aren't you supposed to make things look nice?"
"The purpose of haircolor and cosmetics is to look good, not like that."
and other things along the lines that I'm psycho, weird, etc..

But to hell with 'em images/smilies/smile.gif. I can't help it if my parents are shallow and closeminded at times. Just be who you are, and wear what you want. Sure society is full of stereotypical bullshit, but itz best to prove people otherwise! images/smilies/smile.gif

Luv ya Tamme, and all the clothes and style that comez w/ ya images/smilies/biggrin.gif.

Shannon

hoobie

02-13-2001, 10:52 AM

nope, never, wouldn't do it. not even if they bought me new cloths, which they have done, and i haven't worn. but i don't live at home, and i haven't for years so i've basically forgotten what thats like!

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Blueskies007

02-13-2001, 12:18 PM

Oh Tamme! living at home sucks ass, and i know it.. I think parents sometimes only think of themselves and what image they want to put out. You dress fine... nice and causual. What does your mom wear a dress everyday or somthing? She needs to think of it this way... there could be worse things then wearing baggy clothes and a bandanna.

love kathleen

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soho

02-13-2001, 01:04 PM

Vy~ that song rocks! images/smilies/smile.gif It's on the Dave Clarke mix I just downloaded this weekend and I WANT it on vinyl!

Primer~ images/smilies/rolleyes.gif

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TheIronLung

02-13-2001, 02:34 PM

i know exactly how you feel about this shit.

when i was a freshman my parents hated the way i dressed. but not only did they try and make me change my style they started goin out and buyin me preppy clothes to wear and when that didnt work they acually stole all my clothes out of my closet and replaced them with the shit they bought me. but that didnt work either. what did i do went and returned what they bought me and bought all new shit that i wore haha. so after that they pretty much gave up on my style. i have changed my style since then but still they dont really fuck with my clothes anymore. all i really have to say is stand up for yourself and the problem should go away. atleast thats what happened to me. good luck and hope everything goes good with this shit i know how much it sucks.

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::breaksjunky::

02-13-2001, 11:39 PM

you could just do what i did tamme...

kinna keep rebelling and not complying with their wishes until they give up on you-now that me & my parents had to go through this really rough year of me bein kinna bratty and establishing an independent identity of what they want me to be--they've chilled a whole bunch on me and i think kinna respect the fact that i am my own person and i'm growing up & becoming a responsible young adult. well if they don't respect it; it seems like they've come to terms with it and either accept it or just tolerate it enough that they no longer bite my head off for what i do & wear (they haven't yet this quarter images/smilies/biggrin.gif) then again...when i go home i'm respectful and wear things that'll surely cover up me tattoo since daddy doesn't know about it yet...mommy doesn't mind too much, she just knows that what she says to me regarding what i wear, do to my body won't change what i already feel--sometimes those power struggles between parents end up working out to something good

hehe check my signature...that's for you!!!

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