it can just RUIN the night so DON't

[Parteekyd]

i have been thinking and i know im guilty of it to in the past and i need to stop as well. I am sure it has happened to everyone reading this as well. You are at a Rave, a gathering, a movie, concert and having a great time for no real reason other then you are having a good time. Then you see someone and say hi and start talking and they make the comment"THIS SUCKS" or "THIS IS NO FUN"

Well if you are someone who does this PLEASE STOP. and i will try to never do it again as well because you never know the person you say it to may be having the time of there life and you just might bring them down just a little bit and as the night goes on it wears on them more and more. If your not having fun somewhere just try and not complain but say something like Ya its fun. even ya its fun but such and such was better is ok. well thats my thoughts for the day time to go to bed. PLUR
-dave
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[Vincubus]

If Im not having a good time, I usually just go off and sit in a corner by myself. Most of the time when I end up not having fun is cuz I get depressed for some random reason. I try not to bring anyone else down. I know I am guilty, however, of what you are talking about. But I think Ive only said it at parties that really did suck, like Playland. (oh what a disappointment.)

[groovinkim]

i totally disagree. i wish that more people
would just say straight up what's on their mind, rather than feeling like they can't
say it because it's not polite or might bring someone else down or whatever. i want my
friends to tell me what is on their mind,
not feel like they can't be honest.

i also don't feel like you should have to
pretend you are having a good time if you're not.

but at the same time, if i wasn't having
a good time at a party, i would probably
just leave....

kim

[groovinkim]

also, the person telling you that they
aren't having fun is in a way asking you
for help... if they aren't having fun,
maybe there is something you can do to
make them feel better... giving them a hug,
talking to them, etc...

then that would probably make you feel
better too! rather than feeling "brought
down"..

[mokey]

I agree a little with both kim and partykid.
I mean I am always willing to help out someone to have a good time , but there are those who just keep complaining too. And yes it's dificult to seperate the whiners from the peeps who truly want to have a good time. so I say, if your seriuosly not having a good time, try to make the best of it. If your having a bad trip then there's always someone to help out. I make the best of where ever I am at and I am one of those fortunate people who can always find some beauty or fun in whatever situation I am in.
But just don't sit there and whine people. speak your mind but if someone else if obviously having a good time, don't try to bring them down.
lv=mokey

[psyanide]

I agree with Kim as well. If I'm having a good time, then I want to share it with people, if I'm not having a good time I also want to share it. People don't have to agree with me on that one, in fact they don't have to listen to me if they don't want to. It's just me expressing my feelings. That's it.

[vox2000]

If you aren't haing a good time doing something, I think its important to be considerate of others who may be having fun, by refraining from negative comments. On the same hand its also important to let others know, you arent having fun, & ask for assistance. If it gets to the point where becomes painfully "unFun",then you may need to remove yourself from a situation. One more idea - It may be beneficial for one to examine your idea of what fun is- & choose your company based on the conceptual similarities of what "FUN" is.

[Acidraver]

I just wanted to chime in here! I think if we combine these ideas we have a good thing. It is one thing to complain about a party over and over just to be annoyning and let Everyone in the place know you're haveing a shitty time. But its another to just calmly tell someone that you're just not fealing it or you're not having as much fun as you could. You've just got to remember to keep positive. You wont have a good time being negative. And if someone does tell you there not having a good time, do all that is in your power to change that. If ppl want PLUR were gonna have to work on the Unity...helping others is a good step in the right direction. Sooo!!! How-abouts istead of yelling THIS PARTY SUCKS why not calmly walk over to a friend or someone you'd like to get to know better and try and make the best of it! :)
***Hope to see you all with smiles on your cute little faces ***
~Matt
www.halcyon.com/procont/matt (http://www.halcyon.com/procont/matt)

[Parteekyd]

hey hank ya i got your email but couldn;t respond....ya kim i do agree with some of what your saying you do make a good point. i more refearing to the people that are just complaining and not saying "hey help me have a better time please" but ones that just drone on and on through the night everytime you run into them. sometimes it seams like they are mad you are having fun and just say it to make your night nto fun so you can be sad with them or something...anyways *POOF* im gone

[mokey]

YA MATT! i completley agree!! 100% Thats the way to plur!
lv=mokey